What's hounding you? Are you feeling persistently pestered, annoyed, or persecuted by painful memories from past life events? Is it guilt, shame, grief? Sometimes self-inflicted torment can be worst then the actual incident. Neglecting to resolve issues from the past can prompt a powerless mindset. It can also interfere with intimacy in your present or future relationships. If you have been unable to resolve the emotional effects of past events then it may be time to ask for help. Don’t let past events continue to hound you. Professional counseling could help.
Frequent self-inflicted emotional pain or internal stress comes from replaying past mistakes over and over again in your head, allowing feelings of shame and regret to shape your actions in the present..
Admitting to yourself that you have made a mistake is a very tough process. The residing guilt is even harder to bear. Guilt is a natural feeling that comes from knowing you have done something wrong. It can be a very useful tool when it comes to learning right from wrong, but unless the offense you committed is unforgivable you must learn to cope with your guilt sooner or later.
5 Ways that Counseling/Therapy Can Help
Counseling can help you unleash whatever is hounding you!
You probably have heard the comments about being authentic or finding your true self. Many people have asked themselves the question "Who am I? A better question would be "Who do I want to be?'
It doesn't matter whether you know your true self or not, it's very possible to become the person you want to be by your own design. The first step is deciding who you want to be and then start your road map. It really is just that easy. However, the hardest part will be getting through the self doubt, fear, and all those other emotions that keep you frozen.
When I work with my clients the first step that we take is simply to visualize, or use their imagination to experience events and relationships that would make them smile. The key to this exercise is to avoid interrupting the process my thinking about why you can't accomplish this or thinking about all of the roadblocks that might get in your way. Just Imagine!
Habits have a way of becoming deeply ingrained in our thinking patterns and our behaviors patterns, especially those that cause more harmful results than good. As a mental health counselor and coach, I have met many people who have made unhappiness a daily habit. They live their lives focused on events and people from the past that caused them to feel unhappy and they relive these episodes over and over again until it becomes a habit. The feeling of unhappiness becomes rooted in the subconscious mind and, like most habits, it continues without any effort.
Breaking old habits and developing new ones starts with intention. Make it your intention to develop the habit of happiness. Just as you spend time thinking about unhappy events from the past, start thinking about happy events from the past. Think about the times in your life when you enjoyed what your were doing, focus on moments that made you smile or laugh out loud. Dedicate a few minutes each day to sit and close your eyes, and then visualize, in vivid details, those happy events. But also catch yourself focused on unhappy events and a feeling a sad mood, then refocus to your those events that made your laugh. It will change your mood immediately. Do this for at least 30 days and I know you will find yourself with a new habit, the habit of happiness.
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