Believe: The Choice is Yours
Our beliefs are so powerful that they literally create our reality. Our perceptions translate into our experiences. When we become aware of what we believe at our most basic and primal levels, we can understand with much greater clarity why our life experience is the way it is. Beliefs are nothing more than agreements about reality and they can be changed. They are the thoughts that we hold in our imagination and perceive to be real: consciously, subconsciously, and unconsciously.The point is this: what you actually are is only limited by what you think you are.
Replaying your mistakes and hurtful experiences over and over in your mind can make you become more distressed. Replaying the memories does not help you to resolve the emotional pain. Ruminating creates more stress and unhappiness. Letting go of frustration and worry about the past is one way to release the pressure and move forward. To get started with turning off the replay button ask yourself these questions:
1. Do I what to let go of the emotional pain? If the answer is "No", then the next question is "Why"? Why do I want to stay stuck in a miserable state of mind? Deciding to let go of emotional pain is a powerful technique.
2. Is the way that I'm handling the emotional pain assisting me in relieving the pain? Trying to push away the thoughts or suppress your emotions may not be effective. Turning to drugs, alcohol or isolation will also just leads to more pain.
3. What do I need to focus on to get to a positive emotional state? You have to take responsibility for making the shift from emotional pain to a positive emotional state. This doesn't mean that you are absolving other people of blame, or pretending that the event didn't happen. You are making a decision about what you want to focus on. Distracting yourself from painful emotions by engaging in another activity maybe a positive management tool.
Write down the answers and be totally honest. Create an affirmation that opens your heart when you say it aloud. For example, “I am open and receptive to living a life free of emotional pain” Speak it daily and as often as you like.
If you can't find a way to move forward on your own Get help. You can choose to get help from a life coach or a therapist. Seeking professional guidance can give you the safety of relative anonymity, which can sometimes make it easier to share your problems.
5 Daily Habits for Success and Happiness
If there is a universal wish, it is certainly the desire to find happiness and success. Everybody tries to find out a secret recipe, without knowing where to start.
1. Love Your Work
Work and success are related, and it is not a secret that hard work should be the most important habit in order to reach success. However, many of you wonder how it may be related to happiness. Those who do their dream job and follow their passion will be happy working. They won’t have a life full of success because usually successful people know more about failure than anyone of us. But finally they will reach it. The failures teach us to value the success. So there is a secret after all. You have to love your job, to establish a goal, and to follow it no matter what.
2. Love more, judge less
Love is said to be the secret force that keeps the world moving. We all have the ability to love, and however, people tend to forget it. They get hurt too much and they lose the ability to trust. They start hiding their feelings. Somehow, they become the same person they are trying to escape from. They begin to judge others, and in the process they realize that they don’t care anymore. Those who shut love out don’t realize that they are refusing themselves the chance to be happy. And if they focus too much on judging others, they can’t focus on their success.
3. Dare to be different
This society tries to make us all resemble, it teaches us the same values, and it tries to make us think alike. And many people don’t care, they believe that this is the right way. Different people are weird, and they are judged even from school. Usually when children see a different child, they start making fun of it. So it is no wonder that people grew up believing that being different is wrong. However, only those who manage to separate themselves from the rest of the word will be able to reach happiness and success.
4. Break dependent relationships
In this mad race called life many people start confusing dependence with love. They stop growing at the same moment when they start believing that they can’t function without another person. And when you place someone else other than you at the center of your world, your happiness will be in their hands. You won’t be able to control the sole feeling that you are always searching for. And if you aren’t free, you can’t grow and become successful.
5. Read a lot
Books help us discover ourselves and they have the ability to change our vision toward life. So people who read more will understand better this world and will find the key to success and happiness.
It may be difficult at the beginning, but if you try these habits every day, you will succeed.
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