Replaying your mistakes and hurtful experiences over and over in your mind can make you become more distressed. Replaying the memories does not help you to resolve the emotional pain. Ruminating creates more stress and unhappiness. Letting go of frustration and worry about the past is one way to release the pressure and move forward. To get started with turning off the replay button ask yourself these questions:
1. Do I what to let go of the emotional pain? If the answer is "No", then the next question is "Why"? Why do I want to stay stuck in a miserable state of mind? Deciding to let go of emotional pain is a powerful technique.
2. Is the way that I'm handling the emotional pain assisting me in relieving the pain? Trying to push away the thoughts or suppress your emotions may not be effective. Turning to drugs, alcohol or isolation will also just leads to more pain.
3. What do I need to focus on to get to a positive emotional state? You have to take responsibility for making the shift from emotional pain to a positive emotional state. This doesn't mean that you are absolving other people of blame, or pretending that the event didn't happen. You are making a decision about what you want to focus on. Distracting yourself from painful emotions by engaging in another activity maybe a positive management tool.
Write down the answers and be totally honest. Create an affirmation that opens your heart when you say it aloud. For example, “I am open and receptive to living a life free of emotional pain” Speak it daily and as often as you like.
If you can't find a way to move forward on your own Get help. You can choose to get help from a life coach or a therapist. Seeking professional guidance can give you the safety of relative anonymity, which can sometimes make it easier to share your problems.
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