Habits have a way of becoming deeply ingrained in our thinking patterns and our behaviors patterns, especially those that cause more harmful results than good. As a mental health counselor and coach, I have met many people who have made unhappiness a daily habit. They live their lives focused on events and people from the past that caused them to feel unhappy and they relive these episodes over and over again until it becomes a habit. The feeling of unhappiness becomes rooted in the subconscious mind and, like most habits, it continues without any effort.
Breaking old habits and developing new ones starts with intention. Make it your intention to develop the habit of happiness. Just as you spend time thinking about unhappy events from the past, start thinking about happy events from the past. Think about the times in your life when you enjoyed what your were doing, focus on moments that made you smile or laugh out loud. Dedicate a few minutes each day to sit and close your eyes, and then visualize, in vivid details, those happy events. But also catch yourself focused on unhappy events and a feeling a sad mood, then refocus to your those events that made your laugh. It will change your mood immediately. Do this for at least 30 days and I know you will find yourself with a new habit, the habit of happiness.
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